Life in social media

Help Dr. Randy, he lives out our relationship in the social networks (Toni, 18 years) My boyfriend discovered Instagram for himself a few weeks ago. Here he then actually started from zero to a hundred. Not a day has gone by in the last few weeks that he hasn't kept the net community up to date on our relationship. I feel that this is absolutely unnecessary. He posts pictures of the two of us and adds love messages to them. I think it's nice that he seems happy, but can't he "just" tell me his "I love you" in person? (What's especially interesting is that I'm not signed in on Insta at all. So I can't be tagged or anything like that. So what good does that do him?) I'm not interested in the public knowing what's going on with us. Especially since he also accepts just about every subscription request and I no longer have any overview at all of who now already knows all my face. Thanks dei...
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I do it only with rubber

Hi Dr. Randy, all my friends say I'm a square because I insist on a condom during sex! (Jan, 23 years) For some time now, I've been looked at pretty weirdly in my clique. I'm even starting to feel like I'm the only person who values safe sex. My buddies have already solemnly declared me a "bourgeois". When we cruise, they have fun teasing me accordingly. The question is: what should I do? I will definitely not violate my principles and endanger my health. But since we are often on the road together and I am already introduced by them to strangers as "the one who always uses rubbers", the situation gets on my nerves. Do you have a tip for me? LG, Jan Dear Jan, first of all I would like to confirm what you surely already know: You are in the right. Especially those who often cruise and the partners correspondingly regularly change...
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Why is he doing this to me?

Hello Dr. Randy, What kind of sick game is this? (Luke, 18 years) I met a guy about three months ago. In my opinion, we got along wonderfully from day one. We soon started talking on the phone regularly and writing to each other in the mornings and evenings. However, since one week there has been radio silence from his side. He no longer writes at all of his own accord. If I write, I can be happy if I get an answer hours later. Yesterday I couldn't stand it anymore and asked him about it. He says he doesn't know what I mean and "everything would be like before". But it's not. I'm not imagining it after all. Could it be that he is acting this way because he wants me to end the relationship? Does he not feel like it anymore? If so, what's the point? Love Luke Dear Luke, difficult situation. Strictly speaking, as you write, it is not even classic ghosting, since he is si...
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He never says he loves me

Hello Dr. Randy, my boyfriend never tells me he loves me! (Jonas, 19 years) I am Jonas and I am 19 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. From the beginning, he has had a hard time telling me that he loves me. When I have asked him about it, he always says "You know that." . That's true. However, every now and then it would be nice to hear just that. I notice how the whole thing is starting to get on my nerves. Everyone in my circle of acquaintances writes each other loving messages, that they miss each other and so on. Only I don't hear anything from my sweetheart all day. When I get home, dinner is on the table and he supports me where he can. Why is it so hard for him to say the famous three words? Is he perhaps not serious or is it because of the age difference of almost 28 years? Greetings Jonas Dear Jonas, it seems that you have chosen a specimen of a man who has the motto "Tat...
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The scene is too superficial

Hello Dr. Randy, the scene has become too superficial for me - or is it me? (Martin, 42 years) I came out about 20 years ago and am therefore well "in the know". Since about a year I am - after a long relationship - single again and have to realize how much has obviously changed since then. My ex-boyfriend and I got together about 15 years ago (!). At that time everything was somehow still easy. We got to know each other through our mutual circle of friends and were together at some point. I have now started to put out feelers again. But all the guys I meet come across as superficial. It's all about money, looks, likes and the like. Is this now really "typical of the scene" or do I just have bad luck? It can not be that I am asked at the first meeting, what I earn! Slowly, dating is no longer fun for me. At the same time, however, I notice that I do not want to be alone....
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My boyfriend flirts with strangers!

Hello Dr. Randy, my husband is always flirting with strangers... And it makes me furious! (Luke, 32 years) Actually, I am comparatively self-confident. With my 32 years nothing brings me from the rest. Accordingly, I have always been very sure of myself in my relationship. I've been with my husband for eight years. Maybe we want to get married someday. But: I don't know if I would be able to cope with him flirting with strangers all my life. As far as I know, he doesn't hang out in chats or anything like that. But I find it extremely disrespectful to have to stand next to him, so to speak, while he hits on other men, for example the salesman in the supermarket. The whole thing has already gone so far that I no longer feel like going out the door with him. My best friend says I'm exaggerating. What would you advise me to do? Greetings Lukas Dear Lukas, From the way it reads, the situation seems to make you very m...
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I do not come to orgasm

Hello Dr. Randy, I can't reach orgasm during sex (Leon, 19 years old). My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years. For about half a year I have been having problems coming to orgasm. Only with the blow job or the hand job it works... And that also only with effort. The last time that I came during sex seems to me to be "forever" ago. I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing "wrong", since nothing has actually changed. I have - at least consciously - no stress and of course still find my boyfriend horny. Nevertheless, it just doesn't work out anymore. The whole thing frustrates me and us very much. My boyfriend already thinks it's because of him. Sometimes we have real discussions about this topic. What should I do? Your Leon Dear Leon, Unfortunately, I can't tell you why you are currently having problems coming during sex. Because: the causes for this can lie in the most diverse areas. This means that...
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My boyfriend cruises without condom

Hello Dr. Randy, My partner cruises but does not use a condom! (Daniel, 29 years) I am really close to separation. I have known for a long time that my boyfriend cruises with passion. I am actually not jealous and quite capable of separating sex and love. We are also actually what you would call a "happy couple". Lately, however, I've been worrying more and more about the fact that I don't like the fact that he's "cruising the world" and then sleeping with me. After all, I don't know what diseases he brings home with him. We have been together for about four years and so far - thank God - nothing has happened. How long this will last, of course, I do not know. I have also already talked to him. He absolutely cannot understand my fears and calls me a philistine. If this goes on, I will separate - or do you think I have another ...
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He cheated me

Help Dr. Randy! My boyfriend cheated on me, what should I do? (Hans, 61 years) My boyfriend recently confessed to me that he cheated on me. Supposedly he was drunk and also has a hard time remembering everything. Allegedly. I am now torn. Actually, cheating has always been a no go for me. I have always said that if someone cheats on me, I will leave him immediately. But we've been together for three years and of course you wonder if you shouldn't forgive. After all, we've had a lot of happy times too. Can you give me some advice? Kind regards Hans Dear Hans, let's first talk about the actual situation: your boyfriend cheated on you, took heart (for sure) and confessed everything to you. I am sure that this was a step that was not easy for him. This aspect speaks for your relationship for the time being. Alternatively, he could have taken his misstep upon...
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