Hi Dr. Randy, all my friends say I'm a square because I insist on a condom during sex! (Jan, 23 years)
For some time now, I've been looked at quite strangely in my clique. I'm even starting to feel like I'm the only person who values safe sex.
My buddies have already solemnly declared me a "bourgeois". When we cruise, they get a kick out of teasing me accordingly.
The question is: What should I do? I will definitely not violate my principles and endanger my health. But since we are often on the road together and I am already introduced to strangers as "the one who always uses rubbers", the situation gets on my nerves.
Do you have a tip for me? LG, Jan
Dear Jan,
First of all, I would like to confirm what I am sure you already know: You are in the right. Especially those who often cruise and change partners regularly should only have sex with a rubber.
However, this "realization" does not get you anywhere. After all, you do not suffer from sex with rubber, but from the behavior of your friends.
Have you ever shown them your motives or at least told them that you don't think it's fair to be teased by them like that? It may sound stupid, but maybe they also don't know that there are now many different rubbers that come along particularly sensitive? Anyone who has ever had experience with a comparatively thick rubber runs the risk of seeing the condom as the classic "love killer".
However, it doesn't sound to me as if you're going to be able to score any big points here with reason. Therefore, it's time to accept that they have a different opinion than you. At the same time, you should be self-confident enough to stand by your (correct!) opinion.
Another alternative: you go off on your own. In this case, you can use all the flexibility that cruising offers you anyway and with a clear conscience. Meet new people, have anonymous fun and say goodbye - it couldn't be easier, could it? At the relevant locations, you should almost always meet a suitable "counterpart" who - ideally - also values safe sex.
To sum it all up: the fronts are hardened. You insist on safe sex, your friends do not. Strictly speaking, they are old enough to assess the risk and take responsibility for themselves. However, you should make it unmistakably clear to them that you will not be their target for jokes and the like. The more assertive you are here, the better.
By the way: there are many indoor locations that explicitly point out the use of condoms. Here you can usually be sure that your desire for safe sex is accepted.
I find the behavior of your friends not only unfair, but also extremely irresponsible. Hopefully, they will adapt their cruising behavior as soon as possible, so as not to endanger themselves (and others) any further.
Your Dr. Randy
Love life on social media?
So here's my personal take on sex and condoms :
Safer sex and appropriate body, anal and also genital hygiene is the most important thing in life.
I find it quite bad when people are not clean showered and groomed and then still have unsafer sex. That does not go at all, right ???
We are, after all, here in the "educated and cultured" West or in the heart of Europe.
There are fewer and fewer AIDS patients in the Western world, but they still exist. Even the PREP measures and preparations do not help.
And in Eastern Europe - such as the Russian Federation and also in large parts of Asia and Africa, there are still a lot of AIDS victims and a lot of suffering and grief.......
In our so great Western Europe, things look a bit different.
And because many are so much into really hard and juicy bareback sex, it already becomes very problematic.
And we are now in the phase where in Germany and in other countries of Europe and even worldwide the oh so beloved "PRIDE events" and PRIDE marches are coming up. Do you all know why these events exist?
To booze, fuck. Munching and peace joy pancake...... No . Not like that !!!
Have we all learned nothing from Corona and other infectious diseases. Really nothing at all ???? Must the ass always be fucked bare ? And the sperm be licked down nicely ??? And then still the unwashed ass beautiful "rimmen".......
NO ! Definitely not. And we should all just once and finally open our eyes properly ....................................................................................................................................................................................
Have you forgotten how many homosexual or bisexual people/artists had to fight ??? Had to fight because of AIDS ??? Or how people were infected with AIDS by received blood donations ???? All nicely suppressed, what ????
How a Hollywood diva named "Elizabeth Taylor" fought as a Hollywood diva for awareness and funds for research on HIV and how it all comes ?
And very famous stars from the music and movie business had to pay the horny sex with your life. E.g. Freddy Mercury from Queen or Rock Hudson ....... and so on and so forth......
And how the oh so horny pretty professional footballers or other athletes lead a nice double life. Where there are sham marriages to the outside and the perfect world is sold. And then but the pure horny men sex is on the day order....... Ohaaaaa !!!
Yuck, what a primitive and animalistic society we are today.
I'm not up for that kind of shit.
And visit people with AIDS and ask them what kind of medication they have to take. Just because they wanted to have quick anonymous sex. And because they were so horny. And the other guys had such a horny big fat DICK. MMMHHH is the DICK man..... LOL
40th YEARS - AIDS - Hooray_we_are_still_living and: Who will pay for it all ????
This is the story of death and survival, exclusion and hope, of heavy defeats and great successes. In the beginning, nothing helped against the virus. An HIV infection seemed like certain death.
When, in the early 1980s, the first patients in San Francisco, Paris or Berlin came down with pneumonia and fungal infections with high fevers, doctors were at a loss. Most of those affected were homosexual men, but what they were ill with was not known.
A story of dying, but also of survival
Panic about infection spread, governments wavered between exclusion and education. Scientists were feverishly researching drugs and a vaccine, and a battle for life and death began. HIV and AIDS became the spectre of an entire generation. Soon there was a test and the transmission routes of the virus were known.
The first drugs came on the market and often only created further suffering. Thousands fell ill. When the epidemic was successfully brought under control in the Western world through elaborate educational campaigns and with the help of expensive drugs, the focus of the diseases shifted to Asia and Africa and now claimed millions of lives - until today.
The French doctor and virologist "Willy Rozenbaum" treated the first AIDS patient in Europe.
Two Germans - Dietmar Schranz and Dirk Ludigs - were suddenly confronted with a deadly disease as young gay men. Sabine Weinmann, too, fought for her life and for others in the AIDS aid organization.
Ulrich Würdemann and Didier Lestrade rebelled against society's silence with the association "Act Up" in France.
Today, Isabelle and Barbie Breakout explain the successes of HIV research, and Nikolay Luchenkov reports on the difficult situation of AIDS patients in Russia.
In a great documentary in the ARD television program was shown on Monday , the 13.12.2021 | at 23:50 clock in the ERSTEN program / "Das Erste" a great television documentary on the subject of AIDS.
Important:
This program had also been available for twelve months after the broadcast in the ARD Mediathek !!!
In this very interesting and explosive DOCUMENTATION about AIDS, the successes are shown, but also fatal mistakes and fatal defeats.
Recordings of this documentary may be available for purchase from the media service of the German public broadcaster Ersten.
Conclusion. We humans are worse than animals and often far too careless, endangering the lives of others as well as our own.
So think all again about it. You all want to be responsible citizens, right?
So act like it.
I read in recent history once how this came up with AIDS in the 80s. What it was all like. No Glamour, No Hope, Only Exclusion and the like.....
IT WAS HELL: The people with AIDS were totally despised, insulted, beaten and no one wanted to help them. Not even the fucking Catholic Church. The priests also prefer to fuck "au naturel" / bareback. Because it is so horny.....
And today, living with AIDS is still quite a challenge.
Many drugs with very significant side effects have to be taken. And they cost a hell of a lot of money!
So now I'll make a point here.
I think it would be great if I could get all of you to think about this information. And remember:
Life is far too short and far too hard. Even without AIDS.....
For Eich all: Have a good time. And stay healthy and clean. Okay ????
M E R C I !!!
Have, also anal sex only with rubber
With man/woman only with rubber
Sure, it excites me times without rubber fucking
But, only with a permanent partner, I do not have at the moment. Thus fuck and let me fuck only with rubber.
Am bi Active and passive
Hey Jan, I think it's great that you are so conscientious.
And please keep it up! And believe me there are enough others who think exactly like you and it's worth looking and I wish you every success ? kiss Wolf
Personally, I think that people who have a preconceived notion often can not convince but on the subject of "safe sex" just brag about their alleged "looseness and coolness" but if they then really go with someone and you then have them alone at home changes quite quickly and they ask if you happen to have condoms in their size.
If my partner wants to have sex with,then I would ask him to put on a condom.never have sex without a condom.otherwise what can happen.