The most dangerous dating mistakes

Many men know the problem: they date and date and simply do not find the right counterpart when dating. In many cases, however, this can be explained not by the famous coincidence, but by classic dating mistakes. Many processes happen here on an unconscious level, but ensure that the counterpart does not feel comfortable (or at least has no interest in a second date).

However, if you take a little time to look at your own flirting behavior, you will quickly realize that some mistakes can be avoided. Of course, there is still no fundamental guarantee. But: the chances of a passionate flirt (or more) can at least be increased if your own behavior is questioned.

The following errors may be the reason why he does not report after Date No. 1.

Mistake No. 1: extensive conversations about the ex

No question: certainly everyone wants to know a little about the past of his counterpart. However, this does not mean that extensive conversations about the exes are desired. Sometimes this is simply the kind of communication that can be filed under "too much information!" can be filed away. Largely superficial questions, such as "How long was your longest relationship?" etc., are of course allowed.

Mistake #2: "You pay!"

This is a question on which opinions differ: Who pays on the first date? As trite as it may sound, the procedure is often easier among straight men. Here, many per se assume that HE picks up the bill. (Whether that's still in line with the times is another matter, of course).

But what actually applies to queer dating? Many find it comfortable to openly address the topic, but not to assume that the other person will pay. The most harmless way is a "Shall we share?" or a "This time I'll pay and next time it's your turn!". The latter variant can be seen as a compliment in a certain way. After all, it means: I want to see you again!

Mistake No. 3: Disinterest

Listening is sexy. On the other hand, many people find it unattractive when the other person doesn't seem to be listening and/or is only preoccupied with themselves. An absolute no-go: the cell phone on the table and a parallel check of e-mails!

Of course, it would also be wrong to feign interest. If you are not really interested in learning more about the other person, you should honestly ask yourself whether it should not basically remain with a single date. Otherwise, everything else seems forced and, in a way, dishonest.

Mistake No. 4: being too pushy

Of course, each date is individual and also the rule "Do not report until after three days!" is outdated. But: a too penetrating appearance can have a constricting effect. For example: "Did you get home okay?" is usually interpreted as "sweet". Hourly inquiries about how you are doing remind many of stalking... Especially if there is no answer.

As is often the case, it is important to find the right balance and, of course, to pay attention to the reactions of the other person. The better both harmonize with each other, the more comfortable both should feel.

Mistake No. 5: Pretending false facts

The desire to be happy with a partner tempts many people to adapt. Freely according to the motto "He likes sports? - Then I tell, I am passionate fitness freak!"This often leads to the most adventurous stories.

The problem: what may seem particularly harmonious and fascinating at first quickly backfires. The joy of "finally having found the right person" is usually followed by frustration - on both sides.

In fact, when it comes to data, it quickly becomes apparent that the saying "honesty is the bestpolicy" is not made up out of thin air.

 

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