5 signs of a relationship that has grown apart

When the butterflies no longer fly around in the stomach and everyday life has taken hold, many couples ask themselves whether they have grown apart. At the latest when you feel "somehow funny" or unhappy, it is time to be alert. However, there are other signs than a funny feeling that can indicate that a couple has drifted apart.

These five points can help to find out whether it is time to reflect on an existing relationship. Of course, however, it does not replace a personal conversation and couples counseling! If you are looking for food for thought, you are in the right place. Everything else must be clarified within the relationship.

Sign No. 1: Now and then it is difficult to bear the presence of the other person

At the beginning of the relationship, many can hardly wait to see each other again. Has the longing to spend time with the other person faded? Sure: the first phase of love and passion can fade. That's exactly what's normal. However, there is a big difference between partners who enjoy spending time alone now and then and those who are saddened, angry, etc. by the presence of the other person.

Sign No. 2: Continuous quarrels

Arguments occur in every healthy relationship and are also important, because in this form needs are often addressed that are close to the hearts of the respective characters. Those who pick themselves up again afterwards and find each other lead a relationship at eye level.

Regular arguments, on the other hand, only cause unnecessary stress and often lead to a low mood early in the morning. If this situation persists over a long period of time, it can not only cause superficial stress, but also have serious psychological consequences. When words are spoken that are hurtful, they sometimes burn deeply into the soul.

Sign No. 3: Planning for the future without the other person

If you think about your future and don't take your(still?) partner into account, you should also be alert? If the needs, such as a professional development or a move to a new city are uncompromisingly above the relationship, a kind of "ranking" arises already by itself. Maybe it's actually time to put the plans into action and start a new beginning?

Sign #4: Little to no sex

Attention. This sign alone is far from being a reason that you have grown apart! However, it should be listed for the sake of completeness.

There are many different reasons why it may no longer work as well in bed as it might have at the beginning of the relationship. Especially in combination with other signs, a prolonged celibate phase can be an indication that the partners have already closed up with each other internally. This is especially true if one no longer finds the other attractive and appealing.

Sign No. 5: Mutual respect no longer exists

Those who live together in a relationship should always be able to speak their mind openly (and respectfully). If only hurtful words are spoken, with little or no content, this is a sign that two people have grown apart. Without respect for the other person, a relationship simply cannot work.

The good news at the end...

Just because somewhat darker clouds are gathering in the sky does not mean that a relationship has gone to pieces. Many problems can still be solved by the simplest of means: Communication.
If you at least don't ignore the signs listed above, but instead remain attentive and - if possible - take countermeasures early on, you can often prevent worse things from happening.

 

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