Sensible tips on how monogamy can really be fun in a relationship ...
Some people cannot imagine swearing fidelity to their partner for the rest of their lives. If both are polygamously inclined, no one is hurt and perhaps even an attraction to partner change and Co. can be drawn, actually also nothing speaks against it. But: Monogamy definitely has its advantages, too, and should accordingly not be underestimated.
However, if you want to live a completely monogamous life, you should consider a few points. Thus, in the ideal case, it can be ensured that the tingling within the relationship remains and both ultimately know what they have in each other.
Tip No. 1: Remain an individual
This is a tip that is unfortunately always forgotten, especially in longer relationships. However, a couple consists of TWO people. These should be able to live their free space within the partnership. If this does not happen, at least one person usually feels restricted. Therefore, it is even more important to spend time not only with the partner, but also with friends, parents and Co.
Tip No. 2: Couples enjoy Quality Time
Likewise, it should of course also be something special when both do something together. At some point, everyday life moves in. Therefore, it is essential not to let boredom arise. Shared hobbies can provide the necessary variety. Sometimes, however, it is simply a common favorite series that connects. The possibilities are many and varied.
Tip #3: Learn to trust
A monogamous relationship cannot work without trust. Here, some find it easier, others more difficult to let go. One thing is important above all: communication. Who is unsure, should address this openly ( but of course politely). In this way, many problems can be solved by talking.
Tip No. 4: Have sex regularly
The desire for sex can fall by the wayside now and then in everyday life. That's perfectly normal. But how about regular sex meetings, which are even entered in the calendar, so that they are in no way forgotten?
Or with the opposite? A sex detox for a month? There are many ways to rekindle desire. Every couple is different. Just try it out!
Tip #5: Stay respectful
An argument should never lead to the partner being verbally hurt. Therefore, it is important - especially in longer monogamous relationships - to remain respectful in dealing with each other. Words can hurt and many men, of course, know after a few years in partnership, how they can bring their counterpart to white heat. But why actually? Wouldn't it be more stress-free for everyone to simply communicate politely with each other?
Speaking of communication: The fact that couples who have been together for a long time can usually talk to each other more openly has a decisive advantage. After all, there is the possibility, at least in theory, to talk quite openly about worries, fears and wishes.
A classic example: Want to try a new sex practice? It is often easier to talk about this with a particularly familiar person. High time to take advantage of exactly that!
The conclusion
Living in a monogamous relationship for several decades is not easy for everyone, but it is definitely possible. The question of whether there is a "secret" regarding long, monogamous relationships can probably not be answered, unfortunately.
In this context, however, many people who have lived with their partner for a long time repeatedly emphasize that they have learned that no relationship is "perfect" and that it is worth getting to know each other over and over again.