Nothing looks as sexy as good manners, right? Many queers, among others, also seem to be of this opinion. Because: the gentleman style is currently more popular than ever!
Whoever manages to impress his counterpart here can sometimes book clear flirting advantages. But what actually makes a real gentleman? What exactly is so sexy about mastering the mix of compliments and pleasant restraint?
And how can it all be implemented during the Corona Pandemic?
While the following information does not directly make a gentleman out of everyone, it does point out interesting clues that are worth pondering.
Tip No. 1: As a gentleman, keep quiet and enjoy? Yes, but only conditionally
The motto "A gentleman keeps silent and enjoys!"only applies to a limited extent. Anyone who has ever sat in front of a rather taciturn interlocutor on a date knows that this can be very exhausting.
Therefore, it is best here - as so often - to choose the famous middle course and (very important!) Listen to the other! Nothing seems more unerotic than a person who only tells about himself and gives no space to the interlocutor.
A balanced, pleasant communication is "gentleman-like" after all.
Tip No. 2: Keep patience
Admittedly: in times of Corona it is sometimes difficult to wait for something and to exercise patience.
But no matter whether it's about a longed-for vaccination appointment or feedback on the last date: some things cannot be hurried (or only with great difficulty). However, the basic rule is: A gentleman does not press his opposite!
Therefore, it is not only annoying, but also very rude to keep bombarding each other with messages and calls.
Tip No. 3: The right style of clothing
How does a gentleman actually dress? The good news is that the answer to this question is far more flexible these days than it was a hundred or so years ago.
A real gentleman currently convinces with a healthy self-confidence... and exactly that can be drawn, among other things, from clothes that ideally fit one's own type.
Anyone who wants to be on the safe side here should always remember that dressing appropriately for an occasion is also a way of showing appreciation for others. Accordingly, a well-groomed appearance is always obligatory - completely independent of individual fashion tastes.
Tip No. 4: Gifts? But please "the right ones
What would be the gentleman style without the matching gifts? But do not worry! Of course, gifts and attentions do not necessarily have to be expensive to inspire. On the contrary!
Often it is not so much the gift, but the surprise effect associated with it that puts a smile on your face!
Tip no. 5: Respect free spaces
This is a tip that should be applied in long-term relationships as well as when first getting to know each other. Anyone who asks for space, for example, by suggesting a phone- or chat-free day during the week, should also respect this. It would definitely not be gentlemanly to insist on rituals when the other person doesn't feel like it.
If you take yourself and your wishes back a little here and give your partner the necessary freedom, you often score points in many respects.
Conclusion
The "fairy princes" of the 21st century differ in many respects from the dream men of the past. And yet: a modern courtship, a pinch of "outschool" and a bit of gentlemanly style will certainly never go out of fashion.
All the better that it is now permitted (and even desired) to emphasize one's own type in an appealing way and thus remain true to oneself and one's character.
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