With these 5 tips you (s) can learn to argue properly
Even grandma knew: "A thunderstorm cleans the air. ". Arguing is important. Surely there is no couple that has been together longer and where it has not "really cracked" at least once. However, so that a big fight does not mean the end of the relationship, it is important to follow some "basic rules". Of course, there is no guarantee that the partnership will lastforever, even with arguments. Nevertheless, a few tips can ensure that the whole thing goes over as stress-free as possible... Even when the fronts are hardened.
Tip No. 1: Do not argue "between door and corner
It may sound a bit theatrical, but an argument takes time. At least when everything really needs to be said. If you start ranting and then leave the room like a diva, you may feel like the winner for a short time... But only for a short time. Therefore, it is all the more important to create a time window together and to discuss everything important. A "nice side effect": The other person often feels - depending on the situation - automatically a little more appreciated. An encouraging starting situation.
Tip No. 2: Avoid accusations
This is a small challenge. But: In a dispute, one accusation should not follow the other. Instead, it makes far more sense to work together on a solution that both can live with after the initial statements have been made. In this context, by the way, it is also good to use sweeping words, such as "never" or "always". A classic example "You NEVER listen to me!".
Tip No. 3: Take a break in case of emergency
A prolonged argument can last for several hours. And accordingly, it is self-explanatory that it probably needs a little break now and then to take a breath. Anyone who recognizes that they are no longer listening to the other person(or can no longer listen with the best will in the world) should allow themselves a little time out and accordingly go for a walk around the block. In this way, it is often possible to broaden one's perspective and see things from another side.
Tip #4: Listen. (Yes, even when it's hard).
Anyone who thinks they are in the right quickly realizes that this can be a real test of patience, but: listening to each other is important. Even if you yourself think that your partner must be completely wrong. Mutual listening has a lot to do with respect and is accordingly often very well perceived by the other person. In addition, this type of communication can often nip misunderstandings in the bud. Listening accordingly offers many opportunities to ultimately get closer to each other again.
Tip No. 5: Do not accept reconciliation "just like that
Many couples are relieved when they have reconciled. However, the whole thing is often not really "celebrated" in the end. But why is that? Strictly speaking, it is a reason to be happy when you realize that you have made it(again)! Whether it's a meal together or reconciliation sex... Or both: A reconciliation is worth celebrating. If you keep just that in mind, you'll know the next "Come on! We'll get along again!"will certainly be appreciated a little more.
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