Should I use a condom the first time I have anal sex? (Manuel, 23 years)
Hello Dr. Randy,
I am Manuel, 23 years old and come from Hamburg. About half a year ago I had my coming out and am now in a (more or less) steady partnership. I have never had sex with a man, but my boyfriend has already had many experiences.
He recently said that you don't have to use contraception the first time you have anal sex, because nothing could happen. Is this true? I would be grateful for a short-term answer.
Love Manuel
Dear Manuel,
Thank you very much for your letter. First of all, I'm glad that after your coming out you were able to find a - as you say - "more or less" steady partner. Some relationships simply need a little longer to develop. Therefore, I would first like to give you the tip to take your time.
If you are sure that you want to experience your first time with your partner, you should also use a condom. Condoms protect against sexually transmitted diseases - if they are used correctly, almost 100 percent. Why should HIV viruses, genital warts and the like not be able to be transmitted the first time?
Many gays love the special thrill of sleeping with their partner without a rubber. However, this involves many risks. Your partner may not even know that he suffers from a contagious STD?
Therefore, the following applies: Whether the first or the hundredth time - always best with rubber! If you are afraid that the "realistic feeling" suffers, you can also choose condoms that are produced particularly thin (and of course still tear-resistant!). In case you or your boyfriend should be particularly "well endowed", however, there is no excuse. Many manufacturers have nowadays included XXL rubbers in their range.
I wish you a lot of fun with your first time!
Also feel free to read through the clarification from Dr. Randy
My first time (17 years) and my former football friend, played together in the club.
We were the last 2 in the shower and both knew what we wanted. He would already have a hard-on, I have not yet. I could not help it and made me to his long stiff cock ran and have blown him until the end....es tasted sweet his sperm ..., then he also blew me one.....simply horny
Later we are to him home in his room we fell over us, undressed, kissed us. ....and he took me from behind and fucked me without a rubber through....it was horny
After that I fucked him
Good morning, I am Liebermaik and I am bi active and passive
I always use a rubber during anal sex with a man.
Sure, it's better without, but I want to stay healthy.
Let me fuck only with rubber
Who wants to fuck with me, please only from Main Kinzig-Kreis near Hanau Hessen and you should be visitable
LG Liebermaik ?
Whatsapp writing 01771755361
my first time was bare without protection. Now I think a little differently about the matter. Thanks for the clarification
Always ass fuck with rubber
My 1.anal sex with a man I had also without rubber... it has been horny without rubber to fuck
Now I think, but differently
Rather fuck with rubber
I was 15 and he 25 years in the garden hut he has me hard rangekommen without lubricant, it took an ewig until he was with his tube 18.5 cm long and 5cm thick circumference in my virgin butt inside. I felt his thick and hard cock in me and the cream ... after that has already lurked the 2.friend to fuck me ... I was in bondage to them and also he fucked my butt ... every day ... for 3 years until I came free
Great contribution! Keep up the good work dear Randy Team
Is it important and right to do anal irrigation before sex and what are the possible risks? Wolf
I would say that anal irrigation is hygienic. But it is something very personal and part of each person's choice. However, it must be signaled that the procedure must be done in an appropriate manner. The use of utensils such as "pet bottle" or "shower" in the bathroom is not recommended at all, as they can bring numerous problems such as injuries or infections. Today there is already a way to perform anal irrigation. You can find suitable and hygienic materials on the Internet or in sex stores to perform the procedure. They are easy to handle and use and in the right format. In this sense, they already include guidelines for use, since it is important to remember that hot water should not be used, but water at room temperature. It is also important to remember that this procedure should not be done with great regularity.