Hello Dr. Randy, I no longer get a high, what can I do? (Frank, 46 years)
My problem is in the title. I have a lot of problems with getting an erection. I have been in a relationship for about six months and I am happy. My boyfriend also turns me on and I would really call him my "dream man". However, I still can't get a hard-on.
Of course, the whole thing is also putting a strain on our relationship. I ask myself what I can do. Do I really need to see a doctor? Or will the whole thing perhaps go away on its own?
Thanks for the help, greeting Frank
Dear Frank,
you are definitely not alone! There are many younger men who suffer from erection problems. Of course, that doesn't really help you in your personal situation. Maybe you won't be thrilled that I'm actually advising you to see a doctor.
Especially when erection problems occur not only now and then, but particularly often, it makes sense to briefly clarify the cause.
I don't want to scare you here! In many cases, such problems can be explained by the fact that the person concerned is under stress and can concentrate on many things - except sex. If life then gets back on a more relaxed track, the erection problems often disappear again quickly.
However, it is possible that the basis for your problems is also of a physical nature. Of course, I cannot make any remote diagnoses here. Therefore, I would advise you to see a doctor and discuss your problems with him.
At the same time, you can also begin to perform various relaxation and meditation exercises and ask yourself whether anything has changed in you over the last few months. Do you have a new job that completely absorbs you? How healthy is your lifestyle?
Your doctor will certainly ask you questions like these. You can then start looking for the causes of the problem together.
But as I said: don't worry too much at the moment! Phases like this happen from time to time!
One of the things that helps here is to talk to your partner. Is he blaming you? Psychological pressure of this kind can further aggravate your erection problems. No one should have to suffer from unhealthy "pressure to perform". Especially during sex, you should be able to relax and let go.
I wish you all the best and that you find the courage to confide in a doctor. He or she is bound to secrecy anyway and will certainly have an idea of how your quality of life can be improved in this respect. Ideally, of course, your sweetheart will accompany you and support you in this way.
Kind regards
Dr. Randy
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Although I fear that the E problems at this (young) age are more psychological in nature, an organic cause such as diabetes mell. (sugar) or hypotonia is possible. This should be clarified by a doctor. A urologist can also do a so-called Skat test (injection of a substance into the erectile tissue) which can distinguish an organic cause from a psychological one. This can distinguish an organic cause from a psychological one.
The so-called over-the-counter "super remedies" ("dietary supplements" for expensive money) promise a lot, but bring nothing. There could also be a deficiency of "L-Arginine". But as said: this should be clarified by a urolog. Specialist clarify.