How can you tell if you are asexual?
No question: Only very few people always feel like having sex. It is absolutely normal that - of course also in relationships - there is a lull in bed and therefore not everything has to do with asexuality.
Or to put it another way: not everyone who has no desire for sex over a period of a few weeks is necessarily asexual. At the same time, many people still wonder whether they are "normal.
But do not worry! Even IF an asexuality should be present, this is of course not the end of the world. The impression that it is "weird" not to want sex, results among other things from the fact that on the Internet, on TV and in social networks, a very special image is conveyed. Anyone who is "not ready to mate 24/7" here falls outside the norm.
Basic information about asexuality
The typical asexuality does not exist! Instead, it is possible to be asexual in the most diverse ways. No desire for sex can therefore show itself in the most different versions. If you suspect asexuality and suffer from this suspicion, you can always talk to your family doctor in the first step. In case of doubt, he or she will then refer you to a psychologist.
But again: Asexual people are not sick. Nevertheless, it can of course put a strain on an existing relationship if the partner simply never feels like having sex. A "trick" that always helps in this context: Talk. It would be absolutely wrong to keep quiet about the whole thing. The good news is that there are now quite a few relationships with at least one asexual partner.
What are the types of asexuality?
In the course of the last years asexuality has also been studied scientifically. The researchers found out more and more and are now able to divide asexuality into four different types. Because: Not every asexuality is like the other. The following classification helps to better assess oneself and one's behavior.
Type A
Type A definitely has a sex drive, but cannot for the life of them imagine that sex can be fun. Therefore, they have no desire to try it out. Some are also afraid that sex might "feel weird". Therefore, they shy away from it. Every now and then, they still get a little curious,
Type B
Type B is attracted to other people. These people are also quite capable of falling in love. But even within a solid partnership with corresponding feelings, they have no desire to have sex with their partner.
Type C
Type C is capable of finding other people attractive. A sex drive is also present - but usually only when it comes to the topic of masturbation. They have absolutely no desire to have sex with their partner. Often even because they find sex between two people "disrespectful".
Type D
Type D cannot form an emotional bond of a romantic nature with another person. A sex drive is also simply not present in those affected. Relationships with other people here are always only of a friendly nature. People who belong to type D are simply not capable of falling in love.
Our conclusion
Asexual people are not unkind, uninterested or even arrogant. They are simply not able to see sex in the way most other people can. They often feel uncomfortable because of their feelings and wonder if they are suffering from a disease or are "kind of weird."
They are part of the LGBTQIA+ community and have also experienced a lot of support here for some time.
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