3 tips for a relaxed outing

3 tips for the most uncomplicated outing possible

Even today, coming out is still a big event for many people. The fear of negative reactions, rejection and discrimination is still very present in many people's minds and unfortunately also justified from time to time. Once you have recognized that you are gay, you are quickly confronted with the problem that many queers had before coming out.

Those affected do not feel comfortable in their own skin because they "have to hide" their true self. Many therefore feel extremely relieved after coming out. But it is often a long way until then.

However, it is also clear that coming out remains indispensable if the quality of life is not to be compromised. Some tips can help to make coming out easier. Negative reactions can of course fatally never be excluded 100 percent. Nevertheless, it can help to plan this important step a little in advance.

This is how to create good conditions for a relaxed coming out

People who want to come out are often grateful for useful tips. These can ensure that the outing does not become more complicated than it already is for many. Positive encouragement and support from those closest to you can actually be worth their weight in gold here to ensure that your own self-confidence does not suffer from one or two "critical reactions".

Tip No. 1: The right time

The right time often plays an important role in making the outing as relaxed as possible. A calm and stress-free moment should be chosen for breaking the news. Those who are currently having an argument with their parents should perhaps wait just as much as those whose parents are just coming home from work stressed out.

A cozy breakfast, where the mood is cheerful and friendly, can provide the right moment to utter the words: "I'm gay.". However, those who do not want to say this sentence directly "face to face" can also choose another option...

Tip #2: Write a letter

Many queers find it difficult to confront their loved ones directly with their outing. The fear of the respective reaction is often - at least over a long period of time - stronger than the desire to confess one's sexuality. However, it is not even necessary to speak when it is just as possible to write. In a letter, it is possible to organize one's thoughts and perhaps also to justify why the outing is taking place in this way.

Should only one parent be "enlightened" in the first step? Then it is advisable to hand over the letter personally.

Tip No. 3: The appropriate group of "insiders

Sure: At some point it's time to break the "big news" to the parents. But do the two of them really have to be the first people?

In any case, it is advisable to first initiate the people who are trusted 100 percent and who can be expected to react positively to the news. Exactly this group of people can then also help after the outing to give encouragement and motivation until one's own self-confidence makes coming out to parents possible.

Basic

Each person is individual and will deal with an outing differently. Therefore, it is important to give the environment enough time so that they can get used to the new situation.

Direct acceptance should never be assumed. Otherwise, disappointments are already pre-programmed. Some people may react very emotionally and negatively in the first step, but after some time for reflection, many accept the new situation - even if it did not seem so for a long period of time.

 

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