Over a long period of time, queers have had to repeatedly defend themselves against the prejudice that long relationships within the scene are comparatively rare.

However, a look at the statistics shows that this is precisely not true. Because: of course, there are also partnerships within the community that last for years, sometimes even for the rest of their lives.

It is interesting in this context that many happy relationships function according to a similar pattern.

With the following tips,"... And they lived happily ever after!" is often easier.

Tip No. 1: Accept the partner in the relationship as he is

This is one of the most important basic rules of all: acceptance. A relationship in which one party keeps trying to change the other party is usually doomed to failure.

Of course, you don't always have to agree. However, it is definitely an advantage to listen to the other person's views and thus be able to enter into a respectful (!) discussion if necessary.

Tip No. 2: Joint and separate ventures

Many couples know the phenomenon: just when you are freshly together, you don't feel like doing anything without your Great Love. And certainly many people in the circle of friends understand that the one or other meeting is canceled.

However, most happy couples follow the "basic rule" that it's perfectly fine to be out on their own every now and then.

A nice side effect: through the separate undertakings, there is often always new material for conversation and the interest in the other person continues to grow.

Tip No. 3: Be able to distinguish honesty from hurtful behavior

Some people have the problem that they cannot distinguish between "honesty" and "hurting" within a relationship.

You don't like your partner's outfit? How about a "Try top XY again!" instead of "Oh, my God! How awful!".

Even if it doesn't always come across that way to those who utter the sentences: sentences like these can be extremely hurtful and often cause the respective victim to withdraw. The result: an unhappy relationship from which the person who has been repeatedly oppressed and insulted eventually breaks away. For the other person, this step often comes completely unexpected.

Tip #4: Don't let too much pressure build up

5 tips for a happy relationship
Pressure is never good. Within a relationship, it can even become a real disruptive factor. Many people tend to idealize their partnership. They MUST - according to their own view - be happy.

Every quarrel indicates for them the "forsure" obvious end of love.

An afternoon at home? Impossible! After all, it could be that the partner is bored. Thinking this way causes unnecessary stress. Both discussions and afternoons at home or silence are absolutely fine in a happy relationship and only show that this love also passes the "everyday test".

Tip #5: Do not go to bed angry

This is a piece of advice that may sound like it came straight out of grandma's bag of tricks. But it simply belongs in the top 5. Anyone who goes to sleep with anger in their stomach and a correspondingly bad mood is doing a lot with their subconscious.

The next day, "everythingseemsokay again", but: the problem is still there. Therefore: even if the evening thus becomes a little longer, it is always the better solution to get along first. Of course, this does not always require the well-known "reconciliation sex". Many disputes can also be settled verbally.

 

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One response to "5 tips for a happy relationship"

  1. I am 51, he is 20!

    When we arrive at a certain age, we look for values that are different from young people. But suddenly I was connected to a young man. At first it is all love, but soon we discover different rhythms, and between love and differences comes stress. How do you deal with this situation when love has already subsided?

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